Staying on top of conflict so that community is restored and strengthened is difficult. I appreciate the counsel of Peacemaker Ministries. In their description of the slippery slope of conflict describe what triggers most conflict. When I have unmet desires, differing expectations, or minor differences I can evolve into a play for control that drops off into either an escape response or an attack response.
While I would love if all my responses would stay geared towards peacemaking, I respect the reality that I do not always succeed.
Escape responses come from a desire to avoid unpleasant people or situations instead of trying to resolve differences.
Attack responses are evidence of a desire to hold on to power and control instead of preserving a relationship.
Power is the currency in both escape responses and attack responses.
How do my responses to unmet desires or confused expectations change when I do not look at the issue in terms of power and instead seek the view of grace?
The grace of God is the truth that God has made peace with us and between us through Jesus Christ. A peacemaking response builds on the strength of love, mercy, forgiveness, and wisdom.
The love of God in Christ Jesus transforms the relationship I have with God, and I am thankful that the compassion of Jesus Christ transforms the way I view my relationships with others.